Emotional Strength: Take A Risk…Catch Your Dreams

leap-sunny-skyWhen you are young you leap without a care, you risk without a thought and you take on the world. A chance is an upside down rollercoaster, a first kiss or taking that last shot in a basketball game. A dare is telling your crush you are interested in them or applying to your dream college. You believe you can succeed and that good things happen to good people.

As adults we live a quieter existence. We create arbitrary limits for our achievements and we live in fear of disappointment. We are constantly worried and as a result, we spend more time retreating than dreaming. We stunt our growth and we hinder our creativity and we spend too much time coloring inside of the lines. Who taught us to live each day in fear?

There is truth to the saying, “Ignorance is bliss.” In some ways the less we know the more we can achieve. When you haven’t experienced failure, you don’t fear it. If you haven’t felt the pain of rejection, you won’t spend your life avoiding it. Inevitably we all experience these unpleasant emotions and the true test is whether we let these situations hold us back, or propel us forward.

This week I was forced to face one of my fears, and that was appearing on television. I have always dreamed of a career that includes writing and radio, but television has always been a source of anxiety for me. You see, with writing you can edit yourself and no one can see or hear you, and with radio you can only sound stupid, not look it. This was my rationale. With television, well, you can sound horrible and look terrified. Who in their right mind wants to look awkward in front of thousands, possibly millions of people? These are the thoughts that I lived with, until I got a call from a producer who wanted me to do a short segment for a new holistic health show.

My assistant took the call and relayed the message to me. My initial response was extreme fear1fear and I believed I should decline. Although it is flattering to receive such an offer, I felt that I would make a complete fool of myself and I had no desire to do it. Well, that is only partially true. I did want to do it, but I was too afraid to commit to it.

The Universe however, clearly had another plan for me. I had decided to call the producer back and just hear him out. Somehow in the confusion my assistant copied his phone number down incorrectly, and despite our best efforts to dial the number ten different ways, we could not reach him. It was in this moment that I realized that I was devastated. I decided to shift my energy and I literally said out loud, “Ok Universe, if you really think this is beneficial to me I am up to the challenge. Help me to find a way to reach him and I will meet this with grace.” It was moments later that I had another idea. I emailed the head of marketing for his company and within minutes the producer called my office.

I was definitely tested, but it was the searching process that made me value the potential experience and I knew I needed to do it. Yes, I was terrified, but what would be worse – regret or temporary fear? I opted for fear. I filmed it this week and I can honestly say it was an incredible experience.

I urge you to ask yourself what you are avoiding because you are afraid? What are you missing out on because of a “what if?” Are you stunting your creativity for fear of rejection? Are you avoiding a relationship for fear of disappointment? Are you living in a city you dislike because you are afraid that a move could be worse? Ask yourself what your life could be like if you lived like a child again, e5e35f56349a4f61815d7caa1456450deven for just a moment and stay tuned for your own little miracle.

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9 comments for “Emotional Strength: Take A Risk…Catch Your Dreams

  1. February 2, 2013 at 4:21 pm

    Admit it, Nicole – it was FUN, wasn’t it? The first time I walked out on stage to speak at a convention I started to get nervous, but then rationalized that my videos had been seen by thousands and this was just a few hundred people, most of whom I’d probably never see again. Not only did it turn out to be fun, but public speaking is now the most enjoyable part of my business. Congrats on forging forward – now what are you doing to arrange more on-air exposure?

  2. Anna B
    January 30, 2013 at 5:04 pm

    Taking a chance is a hard thing for me to do. I usually only try if it’s almost a sure thing. What would you suggest I do to take some steps in the right direction?

    • January 30, 2013 at 8:48 pm

      HI Anna. This is a valid question. But I would ask yourself this-when have you ever taken a step and truly failed? Even in our “failures” we learn something and we grow and eventually we end up on the right path at the right time. When you take a step and you are unsure of the outcome you are trusting and you are sending out a message to the Universe that you have faith that good things are meant to happen for you and to you. Let go and trust-just take the first step! You can do it 🙂

  3. January 30, 2013 at 7:47 am

    I fear the unknown, so I try to stay in the now…doing my best and participating fully today is all I need to do to assure myself that what’s going to happen tomorrow will be for the best! Congratulations on the television appearance!

    • January 30, 2013 at 8:18 am

      It is great to be present-this is what we are all missing! I know when we go into fear mode we are usually in the future or trying to redo the past. Sounds like you are right on target! And THANK YOU!

  4. Emily
    January 30, 2013 at 5:50 am

    Every morning I go to Lifestyle and Strength and every time I learn something. Today was no exception! Thank you for this.

  5. January 30, 2013 at 5:46 am

    Another post of yours that gives me pause for thought. It’s true as adults we place limitations on ourselves, and the only way we’ll ever achieve our goals is by freeing ourselves of those doubts and believing it can happen. It sounds cliche, but believe and you will achieve!

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