Lighter Side: It’s A Matter Of Choice

Female-Lat-Pulldown“You can quit this anytime you know? It doesn’t have to be forever.” I’m really not sure how my trainer Eli knows precisely the right moment to challenge my commitment, but he always times it perfectly.

Sometimes I fear that he might be psychic. I sincerely hope that is not the case. Some of the things I have thought about him as he drops the weight pin to increasingly challenging levels are less than kind.

Whether or not he has supernatural powers he does seem to know exactly when I’m feeling weak. Perhaps he can see it in my eyes. I am a bit of an open book. Or maybe it’s that psychic power of his.

Maybe I had been out with friends the night before and they all ordered pasta or risotto, after having devoured the basket of bread and creamy, salted butter. Maybe there was a lot of wine flowing around the table. Maybe some of them even ordered dessert, and maybe, just maybe, I was feeling a little sorry for myself.

Eli seems to instinctively know that voicing aloud what I have been thinking will force me to snap out of my funk and accept what it is that I truly want. I want this lifestyle of fitness and strength forever. He reminds me rather cleverly by forcing me to speak the words of defiance to his supposed escape hatch.

“I’m not quitting Eli! Seriously! I want this… and everything that’s required of me to have it.” I reply emphatically, pushing aside visions I’d had that very morning of eggs Benedict. Oatmeal and egg whites are surprisingly satisfying, I remind myself.

What he’s really saying to me is that I’m choosing to be at the gym. I’m choosing to be fit and healthy. I’m choosing to defy gravity. I’m choosing to continue working as hard, if not harder, than I did in my twenties. Quite simply, I’m choosing. Those are very powerful words when spoken with conviction.Shoulder-Press

There are many aspects of our lives to which we simply have no choice. Maybe I would prefer to be either very petite or Amazonian in height instead of a terrifically boring and average 5’7”. I might like to have the choice on some days to have the classically feminine complexion known as peaches and cream instead of the slightly less delicate olive one with which I was born. Wouldn’t it be lovely if we could choose at any point in our lives to simply flip the switch on artistic ability and suddenly start cranking out masterpieces on the level of Picasso, Rothko and Warhol?

We may not have a choice in some parts of our lives, but we almost always have the choice of fitness. Even if we are limited because of injury or accident, we can always choose some way to improve our level of fitness and health.

I try to hear my trainer’s voice in my head when I’m facing a moment of weakness, reminding me that it’s always my choice… and aren’t I lucky to have it. And then I remind myself that the likelihood that he is psychic is really rather slim. Thankfully!

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11 comments for “Lighter Side: It’s A Matter Of Choice

  1. Anonymous
    February 14, 2013 at 11:32 am

    There truly is nothing as powerful in the gym as having a great, motivational trainer. I had one who was a combo of a drill sgt. and a therapist. Your article is so true!

  2. Chris
    February 10, 2013 at 3:39 pm

    A nice read. Makes me want a trainer like that. Not easy to find I bet.

    • February 10, 2013 at 4:49 pm

      Thanks Chris! You’re right… not easy to find, and unlikely I’ll let him go anytime soon!

  3. February 10, 2013 at 3:12 pm

    I like the part, Stacia, that you mention that you can always choose to be fit and healthy despite having an injury or accident. As a physical therapist working with those with pain/injury, the process of recovery is one of many challenges that put you to the test of what you are passionate about in life. Overcoming an injury, or some disease, can test your resolve, making you stronger for the journey. You can still be healthy despite injury or disease. Take care, and keep up the great content. +Randy Bauer

    • February 10, 2013 at 4:52 pm

      Thank you so much for your comments Randy! It’s great to hear from a professional that I’m hitting the mark:)

  4. February 10, 2013 at 12:45 pm

    Wow you weren’t kidding, You and I sure are on the same wavelength! Great post, we most definitely have the choice here unlike so many other things in life. The best part is we are rewarded handsomely for our choices!

    • February 10, 2013 at 4:55 pm

      Are we not HILARIOUS?!!! 🙂 Thank you so much and you are 100% correct… we are rewarded handsomely… I feel an article about karma brewing LOL~ 🙂

  5. February 10, 2013 at 12:06 pm

    The funny thing to me, is that even as we age our ability to improve our fitness seems to go counter to the aging process. I choose that option!

    • February 10, 2013 at 4:57 pm

      HEAR HEAR!! I will always choose that option. There’s nothing that breaks my heart more than seeing someone who could have prevented whatever ails them by choosing fitness in the first place.

  6. February 10, 2013 at 11:48 am

    And that, Stacia, is one of the best testimonials for why people should use certified personal trainers – that little extra push when our motivation is flagging. Eli can’t motivate you – that has to come from within – but he knows the psychological triggers that make you respond positively. Stay strong and keep up the great work!

    • February 10, 2013 at 4:58 pm

      Thanks so much Doug, not only for today’s comments, but for your ongoing support. It really means a lot to me 🙂

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